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Life Conversations with a Twist
Break the Mirror Rules and See Yourself Differently with Beckie Kullberg
"You get to decide your worth. No one can give it to you. No one can take it from you when your foundation is based on how much you love yourself. Loving yourself isn't egotistical, it's not selfish, it's a gift that you give yourself so that you can give to the world." —Beckie Kullberg
Hating your body is exhausting. It steals your joy, warps your confidence, and turns every mirror into an enemy. What if you could break that cycle—not by changing your body, but by changing the way you see it?
Beckie Kullberg is a body confidence coach who’s lived the war with the scale, the punishing workouts, and the mirror that never gave a compliment. She rebuilt her relationship with movement, food, and self-worth—and now helps women over 40 do the same. Her work is grounded in both personal transformation and practical, real-world strategies.
In this episode, Heather and Beckie unpack the damage of diet culture, how to reframe exercise as joy instead of punishment, and the power of mirror work for self-respect. Beckie also shares raw stories about hiding from cameras, learning to hike without shame, and letting go of the scale’s grip, plus simple, daily practices to shift your mindset, take up space unapologetically, and finally treat your body like a trusted teammate.
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Episode Highlights:
01:08 Meet Beckie— Body Confidence Coach
06:11 Looking Back— Was I Really Overweight?
12:01 Simple Habits for a Better Life
16:54 Mirror Work Works
21:37 Boosting Confidence with Small Changes
26:34 Social Media and Self-Esteem
29:41 Taming Your Inner Critic
34:10 Writing is Healing
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Beckie Kullberg spent years believing her worth was tied to her weight, chasing diets and obsessing over the scale in search of confidence. She realized that no matter how much she tried to change her exterior, the real transformation had to come from within.
Today, Beckie is a published author, Certified High Performance Coach, and founder of The Body Confidence Movement. She helps women break free from shame, self-doubt, and impossible beauty standards, teaching that true confidence isn’t about shrinking your body—it’s about expanding your self-worth.
Heather Nelson: Welcome to this week's Life Conversations With A Twist, I am very honored to have Beckie Kullberg here. We just met, but we've been mutually connected through our amazing friend, Kara. I feel like she's connected me to so many amazing women, and I cannot wait to dive into your story. I know that this conversation is going to inspire so many women, so welcome to the podcast.
Beckie Kullberg: Thank you, Heather, for having me. I'm grateful to be here.
Heather Nelson: So tell the listeners a little bit about who you are, and what you do. I always say where you live. We're very much local to each other, but I've been interviewing people all over the world. And it's just cool to see where everyone kind of resonates.
Beckie Kullberg: I'm Beckie Kullberg. A lot of people say, how do you say your last name, Kullberg? I'm in Northern California just like Heather Catotti, which is the accordion capital of the world. A little piece of trivia there. I'm a life coach focusing on body confidence for women over 40. I have had quite the journey from loathing my body to loving my body, and it's been a long journey. I feel like it was so pivotal for me, and impactful that I want to share my journey with other women. When I hear a woman bash her body or say something negative, it physically hurts my soul. I feel like it's my mission to help as many women as possible look at themselves in the mirror and say, dang girl, you look good. That's my mission.
Heather Nelson: I love that, and we all need it so much. I am definitely guilty of body shaming. People have always said that I'm very confident. And I'm like, God gave me this body, and this is my body. I choose the way it looks, or the way I feel. And so I've always just really leaned into that. Of course, you look at yourself and you're like, sure, I'd love to tone this down a little. I would like to change a little of this. I feel like we're in control of that, of making that happen. I cannot wait to have this conversation. Sitting at 43 years old and in the middle of perimenopause, and one thing I didn't tell you is I'm about to be a surrogate again for my second journey. This whole mindset of like, I know I need to lose weight because I want to feel better. But then, I'm going to get pregnant. It's like a total mind thing that's going on right now, so I can't wait for you to tell me all about it.
Beckie Kullberg: Have you done a podcast on being a surrogate? Because I would be interested in hearing that one.
Heather Nelson: I have. I've done a few of my own podcasts back with my last journey, and then I've been on other podcasts as well because I think people are very intrigued by the conversation. And then I'm going to do a whole series during my pregnancy, during this journey, and having guests on whether they've been through it before, or fertility doctors, and really leaning into that community. And I really want to educate people on it. So more to come on that. But yes, I have my own. I'll share those with you. What does little Becky look like when she was a child? Obviously, I feel like big things happen in your life to change how your mindset is. And obviously, you even said that you had some body shaming issues before. So let's hear your journey on how you got to where you are today.
Beckie Kullberg: Pre puberty, little Becky was so small, really looked emaciated, super, super thin. And I was a tomboy. I played outside. We lived out in the country. We had a bunch of boys that lived on our street. It never occurred to me what my body looked like anything I was not even having awareness about it at all. And then I went through puberty. And like most young women, I filled out. I got curves, breasts and all the things. And my mom, who had been obese all of her life, decided that it was a really good idea to put me on a diet. It was not on my radar. I didn't think I needed to be on a diet. I chose to do it because I wanted to please my mom like, oh, I guess something's wrong with me. I wrote about this in my book. We went to the diet center every morning to weigh in before school in junior high. So I would go to the weight place, and if my weight was down, I felt great. Oh, my life is wonderful. And then if my weight was up, I would go in feeling like a loser, feeling like a failure. Usually in tears, and it would just ruin my entire day. And that set the tone for how I saw myself. I was always either good or bad. And then within just a few months of that, I found myself in the pantry scarfing down Ritz crackers, and that was the first of many. I was a binge eater for 25 years before I got treatment, and that's really how it all started. And by it, the journey of lack of self worth, lack of of self love, and settling for men that weren't the best choices, and that's it in a nutshell.
Heather Nelson: When you look back now at the weight you were, do you really think that you were overweight?
Beckie Kullberg: No. I'm five one and a half. When I was 13, I was five one and three quarters. I always said I'm five two. And for someone of my height, I have big bones so I could never be five one and a half, and 100 pounds. I would look like I was really unhealthy. And back then, the charts were so ridiculous. My height, I should be 100 pounds, 212 pounds. People would say, what's wrong with you? I have a small waist, I have a big butt. I've got curves, I've got big hips. I like that about myself. But back then, a big butt when you had a bubble butt and something, you're fat, so I was not by my standards. Now, looking back, I probably weighed maybe 130 pounds, 132 pounds, and got down to 118 pounds. It was ridiculous. I harbor a little bit of resentment for my mom. She's been gone for five years. But I also feel like the responsibility of the diet center is to just say, you don't really need to be here. Why did they accept me as a client? This is the first time I've ever asked that question. I've never even thought about it.
Heather Nelson: You're in junior high, your body is still developing or going through puberty. I remember always being really skinny and thin. It was after I graduated high school and went into college, and I started drinking and eating out, that's when really the weight gain for me. But I'm like, I still look back, like I was never that. I wasn't big, I wasn't fat or anything. But it's so crazy when you're in these certain parts of your life. There's just a different expectation of what obesity is, or you're chunky or whatever. Why can't we just accept who we are, and how we feel? Not necessarily like what the world sees us?
Beckie Kullberg: Well, you see pictures. You remember having a photo taken and thinking, oh, my gosh, I'm so fat. And then 10 years later, you look back at that picture like, oh, if I could only be that fat right now, because you really weren't. It's this story that we tell ourselves. And so if we think about it right now, what will our self 10 years from now self look back and see pictures of us from today, why can't we give us that love and acceptance now?
Heather Nelson: Right. So 25 years, you were like in this yoyo of needing to lose weight, not happy with your body, dating men that didn't make you feel good. Was there a moment in time or a certain age that was like a turning point for you?
Beckie Kullberg: I've had many, many turning points. So I've been married. I'm in my third marriage. We've been together for 25 years. It's kind of working out. My first marriage, I was young, I allowed him to suck the life right out of me. Life, joy, everything. It was so dysfunctional. And then my second husband, I thought I could fix him. You can't do that. Moving into my early 30s, I dated men that I knew I could walk on, because my second husband left me for another woman. So I was a wounded woman. And then something shifted in my early 30s before I met my current husband. I thought, if I don't change something, nothing will change. If nothing changes, nothing changes. And I spent more time by myself, accepting who I am. Loving myself and saying, I'm not going to settle for someone who is less than what I believe I'm worth. And it was shortly thereafter, just within a few months that I met my husband. And he's amazing. He loves me as I am. He's the first person I've ever been with who I feel like I can truly be myself. The girl that I am with my friends, that's what he sees. In fact, he probably even sees a more raw person than that. So yeah, that was really one of the biggest pivotal moments in my life. My early 20s saying, oh, I'm not going to stand for that BS anymore.
Heather Nelson: What things did you do? Did you go to retreats? Did you read books? I feel like it's definitely a mindset. You have to sit in this mindset for a while like, I agree. You can't just wake up and be like, I love my body now. It's a journey to get there. Were there certain things, or any advice that you could give to that woman that's sitting in that space right now of things they could do, actions they could take to help with that mindset?
Beckie Kullberg: When I was in my early 20s, a friend gave me the book called You Can Heal Your Life by Louise Hay, and I have it. I got to buy a new one because it was so worn out. So I reread it again in my early 30s, You Can Heal Your Life. I think you always can have a shift in mindset no matter what. Even if I can read that book 100 times, it's gonna sound different each time. So I read that, and I spent time by myself. I love to go on drives. So I would on Mondays. I didn't work on Mondays. I'd just get my car and start driving, and I cry. I talk to myself. I would do all the things and work on it. I'm a verbal processor, so I would just verbally say, well, Beckie, what do you think about this? And have conversations with myself. I didn't have any therapy at that point. It was really spending time with myself and saying, look at how far you've come. Also acknowledging progress. It's really easy to see you're making the same mistake over and over again. Not as easy to say, okay, I had a choice to make the same mistake, and I made a different choice this time. So to acknowledge progress was something I also learned how to do.
Heather Nelson: I was listening to it yesterday. I was driving home with my kids from seeing a friend, and I was listening to a Mel Robbins podcast. And it was like three habits. It's a more recent one that she did, like three habits. Love your life, basically. And one of them is moving your body, but moving your body in a way that doesn't feel scary, or go on some crazy weight loss journey. It's literally just getting up and moving your body for 30 minutes a day. And I'm like, okay, this is easy to do. And the other one was a phone. Eliminating the phone because of all the things that it does to your brain. And then connecting. And I was like, none of those said anything about being on a protein only diet, or drinking all this water and doing all these things. And I was like, literally, it's just getting up and moving your body. And we all know that once you do that, how amazing just that feels. It makes you mentally feel better. How do you feel? And how about exercising and losing weight in that way? And then I'm sure that you probably were on a roller coaster with that as well. But where do you sit now with the advice around that?
Beckie Kullberg: Where I sit now is to move your body if you're sad, move your body if you're happy, move your body if you're depressed, move your body if you have low energy. I'm such a pro for that. I've always been a walker since my early 20s. I've always walked regularly, fairly regularly. And then in 2020 during lockdown, I was going crazy. Sent a text to a friend and said, hey, what have you been doing? She said, I've been hiking. And I met her the next day to hike. And I've been hooked ever since. So hiking is the magic cure. I've done a lot of hiking over the last five years, and it's just magical. For me, I would make it mysterious. You've got to be in really good shape, or you need to have certain equipment. You just put on shoes. And hiking is getting out with some elevation. Doesn't matter what your pace is. It just matters about getting out. And you can hike to places that you can't drive, so you see things that are phenomenal.
Heather Nelson: I totally agree. Like I mentioned, I live in Windsor, so I like Shiloh at the hills. I do at least try to go once a week. And there's something about being in nature. Even just walking around in your neighborhood can be peaceful, especially in the morning when no one's awake and the birds are chirping, and the sun's coming up. It's a peaceful place. But yeah, there's something about being in nature, trees and all the things that just make you feel better.
Beckie Kullberg: And I'll add to that, I can speak for myself. I would do a 15 hour hike before I would go to the gym to do weights, because I just have this thing in my brain that I don't like to do weights. And over a year ago, I joined a local gym based on a referral, and I love it. I found my tribe. I found my people. I think that so many of us go on this, I'm gonna go on a diet. Oh, I gotta join a gym. I'm gonna go on a diet, and I gotta join a gym. And it's like this knee jerk reaction. We just talked about hiking, getting out and walking. There are so many ways to move your body that are fun. If going to the gym, if you enjoy it, go for it. Diet and exercise tend to be one word. Diet and exercise, diet and exercise, diet and exercise. They're two completely different words. They're two totally different activities and behaviors. When you exercise simply for punishment because of what you ate, you're not going to get enjoyment out of it. You're not going to want to do it again. So find something that you do, that you enjoy. There are some days that my exercise, or my body movement is yard work. I get out and work in my yard. I don't punish myself because I didn't do a traditional workout. I was outside moving around. There are people that dance. There are so many ways to move your body to where you can find it fun. If it's not fun, you're not going to do it. That's how I am. If I don't enjoy it, I'm not going to do it.
Heather Nelson: So true. Like you said, there's so many ways. I play pickleball, do tennis, and ride a bike. There's so many great activities. Just elevate your heart rate for 30 minutes a day. And I'm like, that really does feel manageable. Before, I was like, I'm gonna get up, and it just changes your mindset for the day. And then I feel like it's not even just a mental thing. But then I physically feel better even though one walk isn't going to shred all these pounds. But I at least feel good. And then the more you do that, the more you feel better, and more confident in your body. Are there any other habits or tricks that a woman could do to love her body? Obviously, moving your body, reading and doing all these things. But are there any other things that have helped you along the way?
Beckie Kullberg: Mirror work. A lot of women and men will avoid looking at the mirror, at themselves in the mirror. Or when they look at themselves, they see the imperfections, and that's all they see if you're reinforcing what you don't like about yourself. When you look at yourself and just find one thing that you like, maybe your eyes, maybe your smile. I talked to one lady recently, she goes, I love my feet, and that's the only thing about my body I love. And I said, then focus on your feet. Focus on what you love about your body, and then it grows from there. I have a lot of cellulite on my body. I could easily look at myself in the mirror and go, I have strong legs. I have a strong core. I have strong arms. Focusing on what you do like, and it grows from there. Look yourself in the eye and say, I love you. Or say that you're beautiful, whatever it is for you. Mel Robbins, you brought her up the high five habit, and do the high five habit.
Heather Nelson: I totally agree. And all the podcasts and stuff that I've listened to around loving your body, they've always talked about that. And it's so weird to stand in the mirror and tell yourself that you're beautiful, or I love your eyes, or whatever. But it does work. I had a thought this week. We went to a water park, and so everyone's in their bathing suits. And you see these people who might not necessarily, probably should wear some of these bathing suits. But what I loved about them is they didn't care. They didn't care what they looked like. They didn't care that they might have cellulite, or their tummy is hanging out, or whatever it might be. And then I had this thought too that we always are constantly comparing ourselves. Why do women compare themselves? Why are we constantly comparing ourselves to that perfect body, or should we look a certain way? What is that perfect body? Like? We all have different body types, and we all look different ways. We're constantly comparing ourselves, but there's no ideal perfect body. Maybe there is, but everybody identifies that differently, and it's just so interesting that we continue to compare ourselves.
Beckie Kullberg: Comparison is the thief of joy. Before going to the comparison part, here's a tool for you, or anyone else listening to this. This is something that I do that has really, really minimized my comparison. When I realize I'm comparing myself to somebody, I stop. And without judgment, just simply say, comparison, comparison. It's just noticing that's what I'm doing. And then I can either make a different choice if I want to sit in comparison. That's a great tool. Do that with judgment. I do that a lot at the grocery store. I get to do practice judging, judging. So comparison, judging. Why do we compare? I spent a lot of time thinking about this, because I've done a lot of comparing. You can use it for good, comparing yourself to someone who is more tone, more fit, more further along in their career. Whatever it might be, you can look at it as, oh, wow, if she can do it, I can do it. That's one way the other. The comparison is not so good, it comes from a place of how you feel about yourself. It has nothing to do with the other person. I noticed for me, when my confidence is low, my comparison is high. And if I find myself comparing more, then I go, okay, what's going on with my confidence? And I know that my confidence in the last year and a half has wavered considerably due to different circumstances. And so now, I'm in this place of rebuilding my confidence again, and it's literally making a commitment to myself. Keeping that commitment and going, doing that on repeat. Notice that if you're comparing more, the weight, those old scales, the comparison is up. Confidence is down. Confidence is up. Because when you're feeling on top of your game, when you're like, oh, this outfit is rocking. My makeup looks great. My hair looks great. I got the right jewelry on. I'm feeling good. Are you out looking and comparing yourself to people? No, you're not. You're like, she looks good. She looks good. She looks good. But when you're feeling crummy about yourself, you're like, yeah, I feel crummy. It's all an inside job.
Heather Nelson: It's so true. You said feeling confident sometimes is the way you look right, whether that outfit or your makeup is looking great. And then some days, you just don't feel great. What is your advice? If you're feeling low, do you just go and get dressed up? How do you get your mind back to feeling confident again?
Beckie Kullberg: I work from home, and this is what I usually look like. I put on my makeup, I do my hair, I wear jewelry, and put on clothes to feel good about myself. When we look good, we feel good. And it's not a surface thing. When we look good, we feel good. It's about feeling good inside. If you don't feel so great inside and you put out the fancy dress on, or put the fancy clothes on, it can elevate a little bit. For me, the exact same thing happened the other day. I was just feeling really crummy about myself. I don't feel like getting dressed, I don't feel like putting on makeup today. I don't want to do it. I was like, okay, what's a compromise? I'll wear shorts, sneakers, and a cute top, and I'll wear makeup and do my hair. I'm not going to wear a dress, or I'm not going to do this because that would be contrary. That would be considerably contrary to how I feel. So if I can one up a little bit, then that elevates me. So that's what I love to do. What I want to do is wear sweats, no makeup, and put my hair in a ponytail. That's not gonna make me feel better.
Heather Nelson: I love that. And I think sometimes too. I'm not feeling great about myself. If money allows, I'll go to my favorite store and maybe buy a new outfit, or a couple new shirts, or maybe a new pair of earrings or something. There's something about that that always made me feel better. And I'm like, okay, I got this again. The other thing too is sometimes people won't just talk about dressing. When I'm not feeling good about my clothes, I'm like, oh, I need a new wardrobe. I have nothing to wear. This makes me feel like crap. I will reorganize my closet, or re-coordinate, or kind of do a purge, and then you go through and you're like, oh, my gosh, I totally forgot about that shirt, or I forgot about that. And then it reminds you of the clothes and the things that make you feel confident. And sometimes, that's an easy trick for me to trick myself to be like, you have wonderful clothes, and you have beautiful things to wear.
Beckie Kullberg: There's so much to say about the closet. When you stand in front of it and you open those doors, what's looking at you? Is it a shame because it doesn't fit on you? or is it, I can't find anything in there? When you're opening those doors, that's what you're hearing, seeing and feeling, no wonder you don't want to get dressed. No wonder you don't want to go in there. No wonder you feel crummy once or twice a year. I literally pull everything out of my closet. I will go through it. I donate what I don't like, haven't worn for a while, doesn't fit, whatever, and put in everything in there that fits. When I open my closet, I'm like, what am I gonna wear? Because everything fits. It doesn't matter if you have three pairs of pants in there and five shirts, you know they fit. I was at my highest weight in 2015, and I had all these little clothes, and I put them at the top of my closet. And every time I opened my closet, it was like they were looking down on me, and I just felt this. And one day I said, gone with you. Be gone with you. I bagged them up, and I drove them right to the Goodwill, and that energy wasn't there anymore. You just don't realize how much energy it takes, because it's not an obvious thing. You open the doors, and what's happening is you get to do some work there. And it's okay to only have five pieces of clothing in there. It's okay to just take what you're not going to wear and get it out of the house and take it somewhere. Sell it, do whatever you want to do. Do not have clothes in there that don't fit you. It's going to suck your energy.
Heather Nelson: Because everyone's like, oh, I'm going to keep them. Because I fit into them again. And I always tell people, when you could fit in them again, are you going to want to wear them? Are you going to want to go shopping and reward yourself with a new outfit because you lost weight, or you got back to the weight that you want to be? And then like, yeah, you're right. And I'm like, so get rid of it. Why keep it if it doesn't fit you? I have probably the biggest question, and this is where I think a lot of comparison happens, and a lot of body shaming happens around social media. What are your thoughts around social media? How can that contribute to low confidence?
Beckie Kullberg: If you're scrolling through social media and you feel not so great about yourself, the way I see it is you have two choices. One, what is it? Go deeper. What is it that is bringing this up? And that's the place to start. I did this TikTok on, I don't agree with Mel Robbins. When you go through your feed, if someone doesn't make you feel good about yourself, then don't follow them. I don't agree with that. Because when you go to the grocery store, if you see somebody that you don't like, can you just swipe them away? We can't do that. So go deeper. Ask, why? I have a classmate who posts pictures of herself saying, I'm 58 years old. She looks hot in a bikini. I see pictures of her, and I'm like, okay, wow. What's this coming up in me? What's this bringing up in me? Get curious about it. Why do I feel this way? Then if you truly do not get joy from that person's post, or those people's comments or whatever, then you can unfollow them if it doesn't bring you joy. If it doesn't bring you joy, get rid of it. Decide how you want to experience your newsfeed and know who it was. Like Nicki Minaj or something like that, someone asked her, when you posted that picture, how many pictures did you have to take to get that picture? 100 or more. If I'm gonna take a picture that I'm gonna post, it's probably the one of two that I took of myself. I'm not committed to that level of, I need to look good. So you're comparing your insides to their outsides behind the scenes. So if you can look at it from that perspective, also, we're in your 40s, I'm in my 50s. I can't imagine being a teenager and having social media, what would that have done to me? I truly can't even imagine it. It's the kid kids these days, they're having an experience totally unlike something we can relate to.
Heather Nelson: So true. I know social media. And now raising teenagers in this day and age, it's one of those things as a parent, you just have to be way more aware of and kind of watch that. Because it's like, God, I can remember my self- esteem back then, and I can only imagine what it would be like for them now. Is there anything else, tricks that you've learned along the way that would help anybody who is lacking confidence in themselves that we haven't talked about?
Beckie Kullberg: Can you ask the question differently, please?
Heather Nelson: We talked about all kinds of different things, like body shaming, mirror work and all those things. Is there anything along your journey that has taught you that you could share with our listeners who might be struggling with their own confidence?
Beckie Kullberg: Yes. Inner critic, self talk, whatever you want to call it. 2016 was like my most transformative year. That's where the major transformation occurred, and it started the number one thing I knew had to be what was going on inside my head. No one can do it for me, no one can undo it for me. I knew it needed to start there, and I started paying attention to how I talk to myself. And when I noticed that it wasn't very pleasant, I didn't shame myself for it. I simply stopped. I just insulted myself, that's not very nice. How can I reframe it? And I started to reframe it. And then over time, I realized that I couldn't say anything bad about myself. It's hard to even give an example of it. And if I make a mistake, you'll hear me say, I'm so funny, or I'm so pretty. I can't say, I'm such a, insert a negative word. I can't say it anymore. And so if you find yourself doing something and wanting to say, I'm such a, whatever. I'm so pretty, I'm so funny, I'm hilarious, I'll say that, and it just feels better. Transformation did not happen overnight. It took probably a good year of diligently working inside my head saying, I caught you. I caught you. But the biggest key to that is when you catch yourself saying something negative to yourself and stopping, and recognizing without judgment because, oh, I'm beating myself up. And then beat yourself up for beating yourself up. Then if the cycle continues, you've got to break that cycle of negative self talk. Nobody can do it for you. It's not like, oh, I have this inner critic. It's something separate from you. It's YOU talking to YOU, and only YOU can control that. How badly do you want it? Do you want to shift? Do you want to feel better about yourself? To some people, it's comforting to have that inner critic saying, I give thanks, because that's all they know. But when you get so sick and tired of hearing yourself beat yourself up, the formula that I used is pay attention, reframe, and then speak kindly of yourself.
Heather Nelson: So good. You do coaching, so how could somebody who's listening get in your world, and get in your presence to help them through their journey?
Beckie Kullberg: You can go to my website, beckiekullberg.com. Right now, I'm doing research, and I'm doing it through interviews with women over 40 who avoid mirrors. You mentioned pre menopause. For women over 40, perimenopause, post menopausal, we don't look or feel like we think we're supposed to, and there's a disconnect. People who are experiencing that, I want to interview you. 30 minute interview via Zoom. I'm not selling anything. I just want to know how you're thinking, what's the story you're telling yourself so I can hear that. You can go to my website to see that. We didn't talk about my book, The Problems Do Not Lie In Your Thighs. I wrote this book back in 2020. Basically, my book is about how I broke up with binge eating, and it was a raw story. And as soon as I was done, I closed my laptop and said to my husband, no one will ever read this book, ever. It's too personal. And then I was out hiking, and I got this download of The Problems Do Not Lie In Your Thighs, and it was a total How To Guide to move through it. And then at some point, I decided that I would marry the two. So it's my story combined with How To Guide, all in one you can get on Amazon. And I published it at the beginning of this year.
Heather Nelson: I love that. I need some more books because I've been really trying to read more, so I will add that to my book list. And it's been so cool because a lot of my guests that have been on my show have books, and that's something I've always inspired. I don't know what it is yet. It'll probably be the story of my life and all the ups and downs that I've had, and there's a lot of stuff that a lot of people don't know about. I'm like, I need to share that. I'm always inspired by people who write a book. So good job for finally publishing it.
Beckie Kullberg: Writing a book is very cathartic. If you have that desire, do it. Even if you don't have the intention to publish it, write it.
Heather Nelson: Yes. Anything else that you want to tell our listeners? You told us about your website. Is there anything you want to leave the listeners with today?
Beckie Kullberg: Know that you get to decide. You get to decide your worth. No one can give it to you. No one can take it from you when your foundation is based on how much you love yourself. And loving yourself isn't egotistical, it's not selfish, it's a gift that you give yourself so that you can give to the world. You own your worth, and it becomes unwavering, then no one can take that away from you. When you seek outside yourself for validation or confirmation, then you also allow other people to take that away from you. So give yourself validation. Give yourself confirmation, however that looks for you.
Heather Nelson: Oh, my gosh. So good. Thank you, Beckie, so much for being here, for sharing your story, for inspiring us. All my listeners are mostly women, so I think everybody could take a little bit of tidbit to apply that to their life. Thank you again for being here.
Beckie Kullberg: Thank you for having me, Heather. It was wonderful. It was fun to get to know you.
Heather Nelson: Thank you.